SELF-CARE

Motherhood Doesn’t Need to Tip Your Scale

One of the problems in motherhood is that a mom can lose her individuality as a woman. She doesn't know herself anymore and sees herself only as a wife and a mother. She's neglected the person she used to be and doesn't know what she enjoys doing anymore. This is the sad status of many moms who forget how to balance motherhood with being a woman. Mothers get so caught up in their duties of seeing to everyone else's needs, that they forget their own needs. They lose themselves in their role of wife (Read more...)
SELF-CARE

Loosening Up As a Mommy Interview

I interviewed a mom I know, who had some fantastic advice. I felt she had words of wisdom that all mothers needed to hear. The next time I met her, I sat her down and asked her to share her thoughts on what she has learned from her experience as a busy mom. Name: Nida Age: mid 30's  City: San Francisco  Kids: 3 Ages: 10, 7 and 4 How were you as a mommy a few years ago? I had to be in control of everything because I was afraid that if things were out of my control, it would not be manageable (Read more...)
PARENTING

How to Homeschool Without the Burnout

I have wanted to write on this topic for a long time, but I was trying to find my wings before I professed to simplify homeschooling and solving burnout when homeschooling. After we made the decision to homeschool, I wasn't feeling qualified enough, smart enough or even capable enough to handle being my children's sole educator. The worst question I faced, was where was I to begin? The whole 'homeschool thing' had happened unexpectedly and sudden that I was stuck with making it work or being (Read more...)
PARENTING

When a Mom Feels Overwhelmed

I received a heartfelt email from a mother who was feeling overwhelmed. She agreed that I could write my answer in a blog post so other moms could benefit from the situation. I'm not able to solve anyone's problems completely, especially with limited information, but I'll make the intention to share the tips that help me the most when I become overwhelmed. "I am a mother of 3 children, 3 and 1.7 yr boys and a 5 mth old girl. My husband and I are full-time students at a University. Mashallah I (Read more...)
SELF-CARE

The Importance of Socializing for Moms

A friend and I were discussing the importance of formulating friendships and having a social life when you're a mom. We both agreed that it's vital to have girlfriends to talk and vent to on a regular basis, even if it's with one good friend. Calling, texting, and social networks are okay when a mom is too busy to get together with a friend, but it won't fulfill her need for socialization for long. As society heads towards more cyber communication, we shouldn't be satisfied with a non-contact form (Read more...)
PARENTING

Praying When You Have Little Ones

As you try to benefit from the last days of Ramadan, you may feel the pressure rising to do better than you did the year before, especially when keeping up with your prayers, and praying with concentration. If you have young kids around, it seems even harder to concentrate on your ibadaah. Finding khushoo when you perform salah becomes a challenge with little ones. Sometimes the distraction of young kids cause a mother to become upset, and she starts to shush them quiet and scold them away. (Read more...)
RAMADAN/EID

A Productive Ramadan With Young Children

(Article featured in Productive Muslim) In Ramadan I try to follow my usual schedule as much as I can, but as we all know, the holy month does cause some lifestyle adjustments. We keep Ramadan simple with our children, by not being extravagant and keeping our meals easy. Ramadan only gets complicated when we focus on the worldly part of it, such as the eating and the gift-giving, instead of the essence of it, such as the ibadah and the reward. Here are a few methods we use to keep Ramadan special, (Read more...)
RAMADAN/EID

Welcoming Ramadan With Kids

I hope everyone is having an easy and blessed Ramadan. A few moms asked me how I cope with keeping my kids busy in Ramadan. Having different schedules and unusual sleep patterns makes it more challenging, and it is harder to keep our children's schedule the same. However in Ramadan, we do less strenuous things and more reading & craft type activities. Bedtime is still the same for the young, but whoever fasts gets to stay up an hour and a half later, to eat and enjoy time with mom and dad. I (Read more...)