Your Intention And Dua As A Mom
Having the Right Intention
It’s the nagging feeling you've tried to push to the back of your mind. It’s the same old question that leaves you feeling uneasy every time. You’ve sought to feed it with simple answers, but no matter how hard you try, it resurfaces. We've all reached that moment at least once in our lives, the dead-end that forces us to ask, “What is my purpose?”
As Muslims, we have the answer embedded into our system. Our fulfilling way of life is to worship Allah SWT. We know this from the first time we learned about the five pillars of Islam. Maybe we watched our parents pray their salaah on time and with devotion. Maybe we observed the peace that enveloped our homes when the beautiful Qur’an was recited, mesmerized by the words we didn’t even understand. Perhaps we hoped that one day we’d be able to reach that spiritual level, and when the time came for us to perform our duties for Almighty Allah, we stepped up and did it.
But just like every wish or goal we've reached, there comes a moment when you yearn to do more. When the inevitable mind-boggling questions of, “Why was I created?” "What is my purpose?" and "How can I worship Him more?" are asked. This got me thinking, if I was meant to worship Allah SWT by performing my prayers and engaging in remembrance of Him, surely I could have been any creation known to man. From the tiny insects to the lush plants, to the various animals, who all worship Allah SWT alone, I realized, that I was created as a human being, with willpower, intellect, conscience and emotions. Just listing this, made me feel grateful to my Creator, alhamdulillah.
How can I go on living a mediocre life when I've been blessed with all these bounties? I owe it to my Creator to live a life using my gifts and talents because He gave them to me for a reason. I am the way I am with my unique abilities. I’m meant to make a difference and play my part in this world, instead of fading into the background. From His millions of different creations, Allah SWT has blessed me as I am and given me Islam. There’s a reason for that; there’s a reason for everything! When we put our trust in Allah SWT, we can conquer any difficulty!
As a mom, with the right intention and for His pleasure alone, you can achieve what you were created for - to make a positive difference in this world, without expecting anything in return. He made you this way and gave you the chance to be more if you wish.
Making Dua for Everything
There may be moments when you are driving home, it's raining, and you are thinking about challenging decisions. Maybe you feel angry or burdened or feel the start of a pounding headache approaching. It could be anything! The problem is, you have no idea what it is, and it doesn't matter. All you know is that you need to talk to someone, but really, you need your Creator. Because wherever you are, and whatever you do, you can raise your hands and pray to Allah SWT.
What do you do when you can’t find the right words to describe how you feel at that moment? When you seek comfort in speaking to Allah SWT and going to Him first with your troubles or joys, the right words are not necessary. There are many moments in life; whether good, bad, dull, mediocre, essential or trivial, you’ll find a du’a for it. Whether from the Qur’an or Hadith, you will discover a du'a for every occasion. In fact, the little scenario above was an opportunity to read at least five prayers;
Du’aa when boarding a car
Du’aa at the time of rainfall
Du’aa at the time of distress
Du’aa when becoming angry
Du’aa for Istikhaarah
It’s clear that no illness or hardship goes untreated. The Qur’an is a book of cures for diseases that you and I have never heard. How amazing is it that our Creator has given us answers to questions we haven’t even asked yet? So I discovered that I could use these little gifts to my advantage. I’m sure you can imagine how relieved I was when I learned there is a du’a against laziness. That discovery itself was an answer to my prayers!
‘O Allah, I take refuge in You from anxiety and sorrow, weakness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice, the burden of debts and from being overpowered by men’
That isn’t all. The translation of these du’as are heart-warming. Take for instance the du’a when seeing another Muslim being cheerful.
أَضْحَكَ اللَّهُ سِنَّكَ
‘May Allah always keep you happy.’
How incredible is that? In Islam selflessness is seen as an admirable quality. There shouldn't be, “Oh, what about me?” and “I want some of that.” This du’a has no mention of the person reciting it. It’s a sincere prayer for your Muslim brother or sister, hoping that there is no end to their happiness. We’re encouraged to fulfill the rights of family and neighbors before we even think of ourselves. This du’a emphasizes the unity that the Muslim community should uphold by caring for each other’s safety, provisions, and happiness. Another beautiful du’a I came across, was the reply to a person expressing their love.
أناأحبك في ألله
‘I love you for the pleasure of Allah’
And the response to that is;
أَحَبَّكَ الَّذِي أَحْبَبْتَنِي لَهُ
‘May He, for whose pleasure you loved me, love you also.’
Alhamdulillah for Islam! We have a very original way of expressing love. This is amazing. It just proves Whose love is most important and Who we live to please - Allah SWT! This du’a makes love being expressed to another so pure. Sometimes we mindlessly read these du’as, and we only realize the benefits once we understand its meanings. We've been given a chance to ask Allah for forgiveness, thank Him for the blessings bestowed upon us, and most importantly to seek protection from Shaytaan. We should, like Prophet Muhammad (May peace be upon him) read our du’as with everything we do.
إن شاء الله
‘If Allah wills.’
There are du'as that even a parent can say for their children. Ibn Abbas related that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) used to seek protection for Al-Hasan and Al-Husayn from Allah saying:
أُعِيذُكُمْ بِكَلِمَاتِ اللهِ التَّامَّةِ مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْطَانٍ ، وَهَامَّةٍ ، وَمِنْ كُلِّ عَيْنٍ لَامَّةٍ
“I commend you to the protection of Allah’s perfect words from every devil, vermin, and every evil eye.”
I hope my reminders will help you parent with less stress inshallah. Since our greeting is a du’a in itself, I’d like to end by saying to the moms reading this, stay strong with your intention and duas.
السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ
‘May the peace, mercy, and blessings of Allah be with you.’
AUTHOR FATIMA - Studying journalism and memorizing the Holy Qur’an. Eloquent and beautiful words have always captured my attention, and when I read the Glorious Qur’an, it captured my heart. I believe that there are mountains of knowledge, but we have yet to stumble upon it. Every day we should learn something about our Deen… something inspiring, something motivational, and something interesting. My aim is to inspire and warm the hearts of others while I journey on this path of knowledge, and through this, I hope to get closer to Almighty Allah (SWT)