Finding Your Purpose as a Muslima

I have learnt over the years that Allah is the only one in control of my life. He SWT controls everything that happens, including the way my children and spouse behave towards me. With this understanding, the events that occur in our lives are either tests or they are an expiation of our sins. If the situation takes you closer to Allah, it’s a test, and if it takes you further from Allah, it’s an expiation. Allah says: “Whatever of good reaches you, is from Allah, but whatever of evil (Read more…)

5 Lessons I’ve Learned About Homeschooling Upper Grades

Our homeschooling journey didn’t start from the very beginning. I did not have years of experience before we entered the middle school years on our own, and there are many times I wish I did. I believe there are steps that you make as each year passes, knowing what to expect and what new goals you have for both yourself and your child. Well, as someone who didn’t have that previous knowledge to work with, and knowing many people are pulling their kids out of school near the middle school years, (Read more…)

Intentional Homemaking

It is often said, that failing to prepare is preparing to fail. One could also add that, in the same way, failing to take control of your life will result in life controlling you, and years will flit away as time inevitably ticks on. Often, we tell ourselves we are incredibly busy, and it’s true. We have places to be, deadlines to meet, people who are depending on us for x, y, z and the never-ending to-do lists. Welcome to adult life! It is rare that any of us meets someone who really doesn’t (Read more…)

Spring Cleaning Our Homes and Hearts

Springtime for many, is a time for rejuvenation, renewal and reflection on the beauty of nature as this gorgeous season unfolds around us. The air is filled with birdsong and fresh breezes, the weather warms and all around us budding flowers and leaves remind us of the bounties of Allah’s creation. After taking in the loveliness outside, we come back inside with a deep desire for our homes to reflect the freshness of spring, and thus a period of cleaning and decluttering ensues. Whether you love (Read more…)

How to Get Your Child To Focus on Learning

In my last article I wrote about the importance of the teaching loop. In this article, I want to discuss the details of each, specifically on how to get and maintain your child’s focus and attention to the lesson that he/she is learning. 1. Gaining Attention In the first step of the teaching loop, you need to alert your child’s attention to what you’re about to teach her. Whatever method you use, it needs to be interesting and related to the lesson. Here are some things you could try: (Read more…)

5 Tips to Avoid Power Struggles With Your Kids

Power struggles. We see them all the time, especially in public places as mothers plead with their kids to behave. Common concerns among parents are, where do you draw the line? When do you put your foot down and declare authority in a situation? When do you listen to reasonable negotiations? As a homeschooler, I hear this question often, “How do I get my kids to listen to me without fighting with them all day?” Of course we must start with the typical mommy-blog disclosure: All families (Read more…)

Green Homemaking

For me, the term “green Muslim” has always stirred up a love-hate sort of feeling. On the one hand, it makes me feel able to identify the noble environment-conscious attitude I should be trying to adopt as a Muslim. But on the other, to say that adopting this attitude and striving to live harmoniously with nature is only for those people that see themselves as being “green” is a big disservice to the principles of our religion. When we imagine the seerah (life of the Prophet pbuh), do we think (Read more…)

10 Steps to Professionalize Your Homemaking

I recall watching a rather amusing video some months ago in which candidates were interviewed for the toughest job in the world. The “Director of Operations” was required to work 24/7, be constantly on their feet, continuously attend to, and sometimes stay up at night with their “associate”, to have wide-ranging skills for completing a multitude of tasks, to work extra on holidays, and to complete all this with a happy disposition. All this for no pay. The astonished interviewees were then (Read more…)

The Struggles of Mothers

Do you ever feel alone as a mother or a housewife in your own world? Do you ever feel like your life is the same routine day in and day out? Do you ever feel like your life is going to be the same forever, without anything interesting or exciting happening? I have, in my own way many struggles, which at times I feel no one would truly understand. I have felt the isolation and boredom with routine. Sometimes those days can become hard and even sad. There are many mothers out there who are struggling (Read more…)

How to Guide Your Children’s Behavior Ebook

Sometimes parenting can be overwhelming! Because you don’t know which is the best parenting strategy to use. Sometimes parenting can be frustrating! Because the method you’re using, doesn’t seem to be working with your children. Wouldn’t it be great if you knew exactly what to do in each situation with your child? Wouldn’t it be great if you had a range of parenting strategies to choose from? How would it be if you had the confidence to guide your children to be the best Muslims they can be with (Read more…)

Making Homemaking Your Career

2015 was tough for me as a housewife and stay at home mom. So often it felt like my children would orbit around me, but with chaos instead of the beautiful illustration of swimming planets, as Allah describes in the Qur’an. Wherever I step, wherever I go, there they are, in want and in need of something from me. 2015 was tough. With my 4th child born in January, it started out rather smooth, but with a 4 year old and 2 year old still needing a lot of attention, things built up rather quickly. The (Read more…)

Why I Stopped Fussing Before Inviting People

Do you avoid inviting people over to your home because you’re afraid you can’t get the house clean enough before they come over? Me too. Do you often suggest meeting elsewhere because you’re too exhausted to imagine cleaning before someone comes over? Then too, the idea of getting the kids out and ready to go is too exhausting to follow through? Me too. During the past five years, it feels like I’ve always had a child who doesn’t sleep through the night, so I’ve been battling chronically (Read more…)

How To Teach Your Young Child Anything

The way you teach your child will determine whether your child will learn or not. One way to teach is to use the teaching loop. Research has found this to be the best way to teach. There are four steps. 1. Alert You begin by first alerting your child to be ready to learn. This is obvious, as you would want to draw your child’s attention to what you’re about to teach. Without focused attention, your child will not be able to concentrate to learn. Gain your child’s attention, by showing (Read more…)

5 Tips To Reduce Mom Anxiety

I never considered myself an anxious person, but I’ve seen it creep up through the years. It wasn’t until a fellow Islamic studies teacher described how she felt having an anxiety attack at work, did I realize that I was living with anxiety. What’s more, is my family living with my anxiety? My family had to manage with my ups and downs, my struggles with meeting deadlines for things I volunteered for (and kept volunteering for the sake of our local Muslim community, at the expense of my family), (Read more…)

Preparing Your Child For Number Activities

Learning about numbers is more than just counting. By the end of the first school year, not only do children need to be able to count, but also be able to recognise numbers, count each item, and write the numbers. Each of these requires a different set of skills. To prepare your child and give him an advantage, you can start teaching him these concepts in a fun and playful way. 1. Rote Counting To say numbers in sequence is to rote count. Most children can do this easily through listening (Read more…)